The Healing Power of Tending to Our Needs: A Journey Through Aura, Energy Cords, and Self-Forgiveness

A Moment of Exhaustion, A Call for Clarity

It was the first day of my cycle.

I felt deeply tired — energetically and physically — after visiting a crowded mall.

That same day, I had a practice session with a group I meet with regularly. During our session, someone gently reflected something I wasn’t expecting but deeply resonated with: reactivity in the physical layer of my aura — the first layer, closest to the body.

That night before bed, I asked my guides of light:

“Please clear my first layer of aura for my highest good.”

That night something opened.

A Dream That Brought Truth Forward

That night, I dreamt of two people from my past — anonymous colleagues from the company I worked at five years ago.

In that dream, I had a deep knowing:

There were still energetic cords present between us.

Cords connected to the first chakra — the chakra related to feeling safe, loved, nurtured, and supported.

What are Energetic cords?

Based on Barbara Brennan’s work, energy cords are streams of energy between people, often formed through the chakras. They reflect the emotional and energetic dynamics of a relationship. Cords can be nourishing or draining, depending on the intention and balance.

I asked the guides to hold on to releasing cords for now so I can witness them releasing it myself. After a few day I woke up around 4am in the morning feeling thirsty and knew my guides were waiting to interact. I asked them to now proceed with showing me how to release the cords. They took me in the memory with these two people.

The Roles I Had Played Once

I remembered that I had supported one of them through a miscarriage.

I checked in on her repeatedly, reassured her about time off from work, and made sure she felt cared for.

The other, I remembered making feel safe during a moment of tension.

I felt proud. I thought I had done something good.

And in many ways, I had. These memories had always felt meaningful to me.

But then, a greater truth emerged.

A Realization That Shifted Everything

We do not have the capacity to make someone feel something.

We can love. We can hold space. We can offer presence.

But how someone feels is ultimately their own choice and responsibility.

And in those moments, in trying to help them feel supported or safe…I had unknowingly done something I didn't realize at that time:

I had abandoned myself.

The Part of Me I Left Behind

I was pregnant at the time.

And I had never paused to ask myself:

“How am I feeling while holding space for someone navigating this loss?”

I intuitively checked in just now, and the answer was clear:

🌿 I needed to feel relaxed back then. 🌿

But I had ignored that. In trying to make someone else nurtured, I missed the opportunity to offer that to myself.

And that was the purpose of the cord —

To show me what I had not given myself.

With this awareness, the cord began to dissolve.

Healing of energetic cords involves awareness and transformation, not cutting — restoring flow and boundaries with compassion . I wanted to witness how my guides help me release the cord so it is not taking up my life force energy anymore that I could use for myself. But they showed me it is just about seeing the cords with non judgmental perspective, become aware of the purpose and integrate that action in life.

Giving Is an Act of Receiving

When we prioritize our own needs in each moment,

giving becomes effortless.

It doesn’t come from sacrifice. It comes from overflow.

💗 Receiving is not selfish.

💗 It is what allows us to truly give.

A Mantra of Self-Forgiveness

To the part of me I abandoned, I say:

“I’m sorry for all that you went through.

I see you.

I hear you.

I feel you.

I love you.

And we will be okay.”

I forgave myself.

✨ I love you. I love you. I love you.

✨ I love myself. I love myself. I love myself.

Can Inner Work Now Heal the Past?

Yes.

I now feel relaxed looking back.

And I believe this inner work — done in the present — rippled back into time.

Because everything is happening now.

The Other Cord: The Martyr Within

With the other colleague, I saw that I had tried to save him.

In that moment years ago, I had unknowingly slipped into savior mode.

I tried to protect him. And in doing so...I lost presence with myself.

I now hold that version of me with tenderness.

“I’m sorry.

I love you.

I am here for you.

I forgive myself for this.”

Support I Didn’t Know I Had

In that same time, someone else, a friend— a quiet presence — was checking on me.

Offering me love, care, and gentleness.

A god-sent gift. A reflection of the Divine.

I feel so much gratitude for that unseen support.

Giving and Receiving Are One

✨ True giving begins with receiving.

✨ Healing begins when we honour our own needs. Giving flows from fullness.

✨ Sacrifice isn't love. It's a distortion of it.

✨ We are here to love ourselves as deeply as we love others.

✨ Presence with ourselves is the most sacred act of all.

Have you ever found yourself giving so much that you left yourself behind?

Comment below or share your reflections — you’re not alone on this path. 🤍

Let this be a loving reminder:

Your needs matter. Your healing matters. You matter.